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Most of our events are not open to newcomers until they have attended our consent workshop. There are three progressive levels of events.
Level 1 - Intro to the Scene
These events are open to all newcomers. They are social gatherings with no play and various workshops on negotiation, consent and finding partners in the scene. Also movie nights and live drawing events for artists. Anyone can come and learn, regardless of level.
We strongly advise you to prioritise attending the consent workshop first. You will not be able to attend any tier 2 events until you have been to a consent workshop. We make absolutely no exceptions!
Level 2 - Lite Deviant
Once you have been to our consent workshop, you will have access to Lite Deviant events. These events are specialised workshops on non-monogamy, kink, bondage, but also small parties with a moderate amount of nudity and play. We will also have burlesque performances, peep shows and rope performances here.
Unless you have attended two Lite Deviant events, you will not have access to Level 3. We make absolutely no exceptions!
Level 3 - Hardcore Deviant
Once you have been to one consent workshop and two Lite Deviant events, you have access to the most perverted stuff of all. The kind of things fantasies or nightmares are made of. Full nudity and play parties, orgies, gangbangs, torture and fear play workshops, neck and face-rope workshops and many other goodies for the incurable deviant.
We are also free to select the audience for these events, regardless of your participation in Level 1 and Level 2 events. If we feel you are not ready for Hardcore Deviant, we will also guide you on how to improve your skills and knowledge to be able to participate. We are not looking to gate-keep, but to keep the space as safe as possible for everyone involved.
We try to make the space as safe as possible. For this, we take several measures of safety. Our first measure is the Levels for events, insuring that people are first educated about consent, sex positivity and inclusiveness before being able to participate in everything else.
Monitors - All of our events have monitors. Monitors are volunteers known and trusted to the space, who make sure everything goes smoothly during the event. They go through training and are more than happy to answer questions, guide you or deal with any issues that might appear. At every event they will be wearing an easily identifiable sign so you can quickly spot them. When an event requires an added layer of safety, paid security will be present at the location. It is recommended you "use" the monitors on the spot, at the event, to report anything that has just occurred.
Ambassadors - These volunteers out of the community are there to keep communication channels open. They will tell us anything you need us to know (consent violations, complaints, etc.) without revealing your identity. If you choose to reveal your identity at a later date, they will also take care of that, but their main job is to make sure the information gets to us without putting you on the spot. It is recommended you "use" the ambassadors when you communicate things (complaints, consent violations, etc.) that happened outside of the venue.
The anonymous box - Inside the venue toilets you will find two anonymous boxes. You can drop into them any information you deem relevant, but are uncomfortable speaking about to another human being. Know that while we will be reading all the notes, they will weigh less in our decision making regarding issues that appear. That is because it is much harder to verify the source of the complaint. But they will help us keep communication channels open while fully protecting you.
Are you tired of trying to organise in spaces where the owner's jaw drops when you explain your plan? Look no more. At Influx we welcome everything that is taboo, sex-positive, inclusive, strange, out of the ordinary. If you are a regular organiser we can either negotiate a flat fee or a percentage of earnings. Depending on what is more advantageous for both parties. If you are at the intersection of multiple marginalised communities and considering how valuable your idea might be to community building and people feeling at home, we might wave the fee entirely. This is not possible often, because the costs of maintaining the space are quite large.
Our requirements for all events organised at Influx - they must respect the principles of consent and they must respect the space itself (leave it as you have found it or better).
We know that paying event tickets is a privilege. We don't want anyone to feel left out or not to have access to information and pleasure they need because of money. That is why we have implemented three paths for helping.
Time for pay - instead of paying with money, you can pay with your energy, dedication and help build our community at the same time. This path is for people who have more time available to get involved and help us on an ongoing basis. It is a way to get access to all events, but also to be an active part of this project and to help us keep it alive. Supporter tickets - For most events we have implemented two price points. There is a regular fee and the supporter ticket, where you can pay a little extra to the price of the ticket to support those who might otherwise not be able to afford it. If you would like to receive support, please drop us a message here and let's have a chat.
Pay what you want events - Some of our events don't have a fixed price point. They have a suggested donation, but you will be able to donate as much as you can afford. These events will have a "Box of Funds" installed, where you can pay as much as you can. This removes the potential discomfort of someone paying less or not paying at all.
FUIDITYThis is by far our most important value. We named the space Influx ("in flux" = constantly changing) because we believe a lack of certainty (openness to change/ curiosity, openness and learning) is very important. We believe the stories we tell about who we are as people and what defines us are always changing. And change can mean transformation, in can mean redemption and it can mean evolution.
Consent CARES meaning:
Cannot be held to a predetermined agreement - Consent is not a contract; people can change their minds. Agreement that is mutually communicated - Listen and pay attention to words, feelings, and context. Respect indecision (it is not a yes). Mixed messages mean “no.”
Responsibility of the initiator - The person wishing to initiate an act or change an act is responsible for initiating the conversation about consent. This might include initiating a rope scene, touching different body parts, or transitioning from tying to touching. Enthusiasm - Is your partner enthusiastic verbally and physically? Check in. If you have doubts, don’t proceed.
Step-by-step (ongoing) - Especially when transitioning from one activity to another, consent can be renegotiated or withheld at any time. Check in every step of the way
PLEASUREWe consider consent to be the bare minimum. We want each person's pleasure to bee the driving force that creates initiation and negotiation. We want people to feel empowered to pursue their pleasure wherever it might take them and What we work towards is for people no matter their gender to feel so safe, excited and willing that they initiate the fun, feel in control of their experience and go towards the people and activities that they desire.
Everyone is welcome in our space as long as they respect the identification and preferences of others. We welcome folx no matter their gender identity, gender expression, sexual orientation (see translated gender unicorn here), no matter their background, religion, creed or politics as long as they keep the space respectful for all . That means don't assume, ask respectfully (find a guide on how to ask respectful questions right here). Don't give advice unless advice has been specifically asked for.
In short, we welcome everyone except for those who don't welcome everyone. You can read more about why we don't tolerate intolerance here. Our basic premise is that all people deserve equal rights, equal respect and not to be tokenized or othered. You can read more about what it means to be othered here.
SEX POSITIVETo us, being sex positive means having a positive attitude towards sex. We welcome sex as a beautiful part of life for those who want it, but not as mandatory. That means that folx who want to explore our activities as a sexual experience can do so with the consent of all involved. But explorations in naturism, kink, non-monogamy and LGBTQIA+ experiences do not have to be sexual and they are welcome with no pressure at all.
BODY NEUTRALITYWe understand the concept of body neutrality to mean that a body is far more important for the things it does and the experiences it offers you rather than the way it looks. All bodies are welcome in our space, no matter their color, shape, size, texture or how we choose to cover or uncover them. Do not make assumptions about how people feel about their bodies. We encourage you to read more about this subject right here.
Our space is mostly accessible to people with disabilities or special sensory needs. There is full accessibility to get to the space and we have a bathroom for people with disabilities. The only space that might be hard to reach is the upstairs socialising area. We have been unable to find a safe solution to allow independent access for disabled folx into that space, but are more than willing to help you in getting there. Please talk to us about it.
We also have some facilities for people with special sensory needs. We have a separate room available during all events where you can relax and take your time. We provide noise cancelling earphones or relaxing music, perfumed oils, and are looking to add many other items with the help of people who will be using this space.
MEDIATIONWe believe in repairing bonds and educating those who make mistakes. Unless we see a consistent pattern of behaviour that leads us to believe the person is not willing to change, we will make the effort to include everyone in a safer way. That being said, we prioritise the needs of those affected and their wishes.
NO EXCEPTIONSThe rules are thought out and constantly scrutinised. We are always open to changing them if new principles make more sense to us. But we do not make exceptions and we don't like privilege. So if you want to ask us to break a rule "just this one time", know that the answer is no.