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Who is welcome at InFLUX?
Are you a person who believes that sexuality is important and relationships should not follow a script? Do you believe that each person's identity and choices should be respected and welcomed? Do you like experimenting with intimacy and learning new things about it? Do you find society to be too rigid and dream of a place where you can speak your mind and explore freely? Then InFLUX is for you! You don't need to have experience, curiosity about sexuality, relationships and identities is enough. So welcome home, deviant!
Want to attend our events?

To attend most of our events, you will need to participate in our mandatory Consent Workshop that we offer in Romanian and English.

1 - Intro to the Scene

Socializing events don't require a consent workshop - for example, Poly Monthly, an event for the consensually non-monogamous, or Munches, where we get to know other people in the BDSM and kink community. There are also some workshops on drawing or creative work that can also be accessed without the consent workshop.

2 - Mentorship in the scene

Once you've been to our Consent Workshop, you will have access to all of our events. These will include workshops, artistic performances, and alternative events - basically anything spicier. We want to make sure that we start off on the right foot between ourselves.

How do you know which events you can access?
Every event description mentions if the event requires you to have a consent workshop or not. So you can easily check for yourself. If you are unsure, you can always ask us, using the WhatsApp contact provided in the bottom right corner of the webpage. When you attend the consent workshop, we assign you a number which you will need to remember (but you also get a very sexy InFLUX membership card). Once you have your number, you have access to all of the events organised by InFLUX. We also check your ID at the door to make sure we keep the place adult-safe!
Is this place safe?

Consent workshop - We try to make the space as safe as possible. For this, we take several measures. Our first measure is the Consent Workshop. We know that consent is not well understood in society at large, so we want to make sure everyone understands what is expect of them, consent-wise, when they come to InFLUX.

Monitors - All of our events have monitors. Monitors are trained and trusted people at InFLUX, who make sure everything goes smoothly during the events. They are more than happy to answer questions, guide you or deal with any issues that might appear. At every event they will be wearing a green armband so you can quickly spot them. When an event requires an added layer of safety, paid security will be present at the location. It is recommended you "use" the monitors on the spot, at the event, to report anything that has just occurred.

Ambassadors - These community members are there to keep communication channels open. They will tell us anything you need us to know (consent violations, complaints, etc.) without revealing your identity. If you choose to reveal your identity at a later date, they will also help you, but their main job is to make sure the information gets to us without putting you on the spot. It is recommended you "use" the ambassadors when you communicate things that happened outside of the venue.

The report box - Inside the venue's toilets you will find an anonymous report box. It is black and locked with a key. Next to it, there is paper and pens. In there, you can drop any information you deem relevant, but are uncomfortable speaking about to another human being. The box will help keep communication channels open while fully protecting your identity.

Want to organise your own events at InFLUX?

At InFLUX, we want to encourage people in our communities or those who can't easily find a home for their creative ideas to organize and host events that align with our values. Our doors are open for anyone, as long as they respect the principles of consent and respect the space itself. For a regular organizer at InFLUX, note that we can negotiate a flat fee or a percentage of earnings.

If you are at the intersection of multiple marginalized communities and your idea is valuable to community building and people feeling at home, we waive the fee entirely. Please approach us with your idea through the contact page on our website, on our WhatsApp contact provided at the bottom-right corner of the web page or during one of our events at InFLUX.

Need some help with the price of the ticket?

We know that paying for event tickets is a privilege. We don't want anyone to feel left out or not have access to information and community because of money. Our pricing is flexible, which is why we have options that are fitting for everyone.

For every single event that is presented by InFLUX staff, you can pay a reduced ticket price of 10 RON that also includes all the coffee, tea and drinks for the entire evening. All you need to do is tell us at the door that you would like the reduced price ticket or write to us on WhatsApp and tell us before the event. If you let us know beforehand, we will put you on our list as a the reduced-price ticket holder.

Note that our events with international teachers and presenters have fixed prices that we don't get to set ourselves. However, we have still find ways to offer support to those who might find the price to be a barrier to participation. Talk to us about it and we’ll figure it out together!

Are we a match?
At Influx we believe that good chemistry is just as important as shared values. And since we want to make sure we are the right place for you and that you will fit in well with us, we ask that you read and respect our values and rules. You can read about our values below and you can find our rules for the space on our blog and printed out throughout the space.
 

Our Values

  • CONSENT

    Consent CARES meaning:

    ‣ Cannot be held to a pre­determined agreement - Consent is not a contract; people can change their minds.

    ‣ Agreement that is mutually communicated - Listen and pay attention to words, feelings, and context. Respect indecision - it is not a yes. Mixed messages mean “no.”

    ‣ Responsibility of the initiator - The person wishing to initiate an action or make a change in the dynamic is responsible for initiating the conversation about consent. This might include initiating a rope scene, touching different body parts, or transitioning from tying to touching.

    ‣ Enthusiasm - Is your partner enthusiastic verbally and physically? Check-in. If you have doubts, don’t proceed.

    ‣ Step-by-step (ongoing) - Especially when transitioning from one activity to another, consent can be renegotiated or withheld at any time. Check-in every step of the way

  • FLUIDITY

    We hold this value most dear to us. We named the space Influx ("in flux" = constantly changing) because we believe a lack of certainty is very important. Openness to change, question and curiosity are principles we strongly believe in. The stories we tell about who we are as people and what defines us are always changing. And change can mean transformation, it can mean redemption and it can mean evolution.
  • PLEASURE

    We consider consent to be the bare minimum. We want each person's pleasure to be the driving force that creates initiation and negotiation. We want people to feel empowered to pursue their pleasure wherever it might take them. What we work towards is for people to feel so safe, excited, and willing that they initiate the fun, feel in control of their experience and go towards the activities and folx that they desire.
  • INCLUSIVITY

    Everyone is welcome in our space as long as they respect the identification and preferences of others. We welcome folx no matter their gender identity, gender expression, sexual orientation (see translated gender unicorn here), no matter their background, religion, creed or politics as long as they keep the space respectful for all . That means don't assume, ask respectfully (find a guide on how to ask respectful questions right here). Don't give advice unless advice has been specifically asked for.

    In short, we welcome everyone except for those who don't welcome everyone. You can read more about why we don't tolerate intolerance here. Our basic premise is that all people deserve equal rights, equal respect and not to be tokenized or othered. You can read more about what it means to be othered here.

  • ACCESIBILITY

    We tried to make the space welcoming and accessible to people with disabilities or neurodiversity. You can read our article to discover exactly what facilities we have available.

    We would also love it if your reached out to us with suggestions on how to improve or any questions you might have to make your time at InFLUX the best it can be!

  • SEX-POSITIVITY

    To us, being sex-positive means having a positive attitude toward sex. We welcome sex as a beautiful part of life for those who want it, but not as mandatory. That means you can learn skills for your erotic, esthetic or hedonic pleasure. We believe no experience has to be intrinsically sexual.
  • BODY NEUTRALITY

    We understand the concept of body neutrality to mean that a body is far more important for the things it does and the experiences it offers than the way it looks. All bodies are welcome in our space, no matter their color, shape, size, texture, or how we choose to cover or uncover them. Do not make assumptions about how people feel about their bodies. We encourage you to read more about this subject right here.
  • MEDIATION

    We believe in repairing bonds and educating those who make mistakes. Unless we see a consistent pattern of behaviour that leads us to believe the person is not willing to change, we will make the effort to include everyone in a safer way. That being said, we prioritise the needs of those affected and their wishes.
  • NO EXCEPTIONS

    The rules are thought out and constantly scrutinised. We are always open to changing them if new principles make more sense to us. But we do not make exceptions and we don't like privilege. So if you want to ask us to break a rule "just this one time", know that the answer is no.